Holiday Survival Tip #14: Hang Out With Kindred Spirits
“I once wanted to become an atheist but I gave up – they have no holidays!” Henny Youngman
Surround yourself with people who have similar goals to you. If your best friend wants to sit next to the buffet table, leave her to it and go hang out with others. Releasing weight can bring out the worst in people you love. Expect to be told you look ill or to not lose any more weight when in fact you’ve lost 1 ½ pounds,not 10. A pal who will help you stay on track by eating healthily and exercising with you is worth their weight in gold, even if their weight is decreasing.
Holiday Survival Tips #15 and 16: Plan Some Rewards/Eat A Little of What You Want (These two are related)
I have to call you out here. Rewarding yourself with a non-food gift, such as a massage or new item of clothing is a fabulous idea. However, it’s another of those tips to which we tend to pay lip service, then we eat an entire pack of cookies on reaching our first five pound goal. It sounds great but the cookies are more appealing. This means that you are depriving yourself on some level so you have to compensate by bingeing. In the words of the wonderful Geneen Roth, “For every diet, there is an equal and opposite binge.”
How about you have it all? Treat yourself to a little of what you want (that doesn’t mean the entire chocolate log; it means three bites) and pick from your self-care menu* for a fabulous reward for staying on track. You can even do this every day so that you’re feeling so darn good about yourself, the food temptations will eventually be diminished.
*A self-care menu is a list of all the non-foodie things you love to do, such as soaking in a hot bubble bath; watching sunrise or sunset; playing with your pet for an extra 15 minutes a day; thrift or antique shopping with a friend; tickets to a special ball game. Keep the list to hand so you can refer to it often.